Live & Interactive Discussion with Beverly Bernstein Joie the author of Solo Wise: A Roadmap for Fearless Solo Aging. Join this discussion and explore how to:
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12:09:32 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Here is the link to order Beverly's book https://geni.us/SoloWise
12:10:02 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Solo Wise: A Roadmap for Fearless Solo Aging https://geni.us/SoloWise
12:11:33 From Joanne Johnson to Hosts and panelists : Book ordered
12:13:48 From Ellyce Ratskoff to Hosts and panelists : My screen is blank. Is this the way it is supposed to be?
12:16:16 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : it shouldn't be can others see the slides?
12:16:27 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : can everyone see the slides?
12:16:28 From Jim Schultz to Hosts and panelists : No
12:16:34 From Adele Logan-Galen to Hosts and panelists : I can see the slides Steve
12:16:34 From Mary Hopfner-Thomas : yes
12:16:35 From Leora Raskas : yes
12:16:35 From Cathy Anderson : I can see the slides
12:16:36 From Maria Salerno : I see Beverly, not the slide.
12:16:39 From susan botta : i can
12:16:45 From Arlene Polangin : I can see Barbara's slide charactereistics
12:16:45 From Mary Tondreau : Yes
12:16:47 From Joanne Johnson to Hosts and panelists : Yes
12:16:53 From Sally Swank to Hosts and panelists : yes
12:16:55 From Jane King : yes
12:16:58 From Deborah Sandberg to Hosts and panelists : Yes
12:17:04 From Rich Carlson to Hosts and panelists : I see Beverly and her slides
12:17:08 From Virginia Falconer : i can see the slide.
12:17:11 From Erin Byrne to Hosts and panelists : yes
12:17:35 From Glenna Crooks The NetworkSage : I see the slide
12:17:36 From Ann Sklar : I can see Beverly not the slide
12:17:50 From Adele Logan-Galen to Hosts and panelists : I see the slide but not Beverly
12:17:54 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : ok great I guess a couple folks may have problems - try playing with your settings but if all fails its recording!
12:19:44 From Joe Sperling : Barbara and her husband NEEDED to plan and prepare with Long-Term Care insurance.
12:22:04 From Ann Sklar : My view options let me see either Beverly or her slide - good option
12:23:23 From Patricia Dubroof : Rewirement!!! As a compassionate person we never really retire until our expertise becomes obsolete.
12:24:09 From Joe Sperling : This is a horrible and compelling story. Aging life care management clearly a critical need.
12:24:38 From Patricia Dubroof : Patricia Dubroof, Artist and Director of Community Relations for Assisting Hands Home Care. I help families everyday figure out how to care for a loved one and make time for creativity!!! It's an honor to serve these families. What an amazing community we have. Call me if you have questions about these pieces of your puzzle. 301-363-2587 pdubroof@assistinghands.com
12:25:41 From Kelly Lambert : Did you ever consider calling Adult Protective Services? (Self neglect)?
12:25:49 From Joe Sperling : Wonderful to see you!
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And for me, it isn’t just business. It’s personal.
12:27:35 From Muriel Kirkpatrick to Hosts and panelists : What are the actions that solo agers need to take?
12:27:58 From Arlene Polangin : One year I received a copy of my friend's will in the mail without asking me if I was willing to do the Power of Attorney. That was appalling. They had no children and just assumed I'd be willing to do this. UGH!
12:28:32 From Muriel Kirkpatrick to Hosts and panelists : What do professional care managers do?
12:29:10 From Joe Sperling : Being a good Samaritan is admirable, but lacking training and knowledge can cause more harm than help.
12:32:14 From Joe Sperling : More education is needed to spread the word about aging life care managers.
12:32:58 From Jacke Schroeder to Hosts and panelists : I completely disagree with what she just said about abuse and the financial autonomy to divorce!!!
12:33:39 From Edith Harriet to Hosts and panelists : are there any life care manager associations to call in Washington, DC Do you work in this area?
12:36:22 From Jacke Schroeder to Hosts and panelists : People hearing that times have changed and that people can get divorced and do have enough money to leave can only leave people listening to feel more shame than they already likely feel and an increase in them thinking there's something wrong with them. Honestly, it's very very rare that an older person can just leave and start their life over on their own!! As a reminder, World Elder Abuse Awareness Day (WEAAD) is June 15th. :-) Thanks for listening Steve! Jacke
12:36:31 From Joe Sperling : It would be great if news shows like Today or Lester Holt did a feature.
12:37:12 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Finding an Aging Life Care Association Member https://aginglifecare.org/Shared_Content/ALCA_Directory/ALCA_Find_an_Expert.aspx?hkey=6c3ced7c-b5f0-4d27-9d30-37734ab6cf49
Positive Aging Community Champions who are Aging Life Care Managers https://www.retirementlivingsourcebook.com/resources/care-management
12:38:43 From Jacke Schroeder : That's a terrific image and great way the structural domains are laid out!
12:39:18 From Patricia Dubroof : Please let me know if you'd like to join us for Death cafe Tuesday, May 21 at 7 pm on ZOOM. register by email; pdubroof@assistinghands.com
12:40:40 From Patricia Dubroof : Be sure your attorney will revisit with you every year to update the document.
12:42:10 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community to Edith Harriet and all panelists : Here are some of our positive aging community champions who are Aging Life Care Managers Aging Network Services, Inc. robin@agingnetworkservices.com
AGING WELL eldercare smurphy@care-manager.com
ElderTree david@eldertreecare.com
GeriatriCare Management, Inc stephanie@geriatricare.net
Golden Pond Elder Care Strategies, LLC megan@goldenpondvirginia.com
Independent You, Senior Services joanne@independentyou.net
Lighthouse Senior Care Consultants courtney@lighthouseseniorcare.com
LIONHEART ELDERCARE & CONSULTING colleen@lionhearteldercare.com
Montcordia Jill.Berkman@montcordia.com
Paladin Life Care julie.rose@paladinlifecare.com
Seabury Resources for Aging cbitzer@seaburyresources.org
12:42:27 From Patricia Dubroof : The best way to find a great care manager is to ask the folks in the field you know and trust. At Assisting Hands we have incredible resources to share with you!!
12:42:41 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community to Edith Harriet and all panelists : you can also search here https://www.retirementlivingsourcebook.com/resources/care-management
12:43:49 From Erin Byrne to Hosts and panelists : Erin Byrne here with the Glover Park Village. The Village Movement allows seniors to be part of an active community and find a purposeful way to age. Our mission is to create intergenerational connections, to encourage neighbors to help neighbors, and to provide resources to our community. All of our services and events are free.
12:44:06 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : From Erin Byrne to All Panelists 12:43 PM
Erin Byrne here with the Glover Park Village. The Village Movement allows seniors to be part of an active community and find a purposeful way to age. Our mission is to create intergenerational connections, to encourage neighbors to help neighbors, and to provide resources to our community. All of our services and events are free.
12:46:22 From Cathy Anderson : How much does it cost to work with an Aging Lifecare Manager?
12:46:36 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Here is an article on Aging Life Care with a checklist at the end on questions to ask https://www.retirementlivingsourcebook.com/articles/understand-aging-life-care%E2%84%A2-guides-and-advocates-for-families
12:48:39 From lainee steinberg to Hosts and panelists : Thank you for this very special and robust conversation!
Housing decisions… whether it’s age in place, a senior community, funsize, multi gen homes, or otherwise. If I can ever be helpful locally or coast to coast with a warm introduction to a real estate advisor with heart, patience and resources .. pls reach out anytime
Here’s a bit about me.
https://www.compass.com/marketing-center/editor/v2/flipbook/ba216658-e852-41bf-8c8a-115b9cc9b020
Real estate is arguable the most expensive asset we will ever invest or divest in… it’s also an emotionally charged and personal journey.
I have the privilege of working inside a senior community as well as real estate advisory.
12:49:12 From Jacke Schroeder : Will that change now that Equity Investors are buying CCRC's?
12:52:22 From Nancy Ruffner : Providers in their 1-15 minutes with you often have no window into how the patient functions outside of that appointment.
12:54:48 From Jacke Schroeder to Hosts and panelists : You're the BEST, Steve!
12:55:53 From Jacke Schroeder : Professionals may be considered by law as "mandated reporters" to Adult Protective Services.
12:56:09 From Mary Tondreau : Steve -- I live in a CCRC and many of the issues that impact a solo ager do NOT "go away" simply by virtue of living in a CCRC.
12:57:41 From Patricia Dubroof : Mary, I totally agree. A CCRC is not going to advocate for you. We all need to build our network for social support.
12:57:57 From Peter engstrom to Hosts and panelists : I have worked for 20 years with the village to village movement as a volunteer and leader including 6 years on the national board. Beverly, your comments and thoughts are absolutely superb. In the village movement, we find you can lead the horses to water but it is really tough to get them to admit a problem until it is often to late. Your approach is down to earth, and spoken into "Oklahoma plain"language. I just ordered your book. Keep up the good work.
12:58:45 From Arlene Polangin : Steve, Have you had good experiences with the Charles E. Smith Life Care Community in Rockville, MD?
12:59:05 From Muriel Kirkpatrick to Hosts and panelists : Checklist link didn't work. This would be terrific to have.
13:00:24 From Joanne Johnson to Hosts and panelists : The one topic not addressed-- when there are no financial resources to enable people to reach out for home card
13:00:40 From Patricia Dubroof : Arlene have you talked to Harby from Oasis Senior Living? He's got amazing knowledge of options for living in MoCo.
13:01:18 From Arlene Polangin : I'm part of the North Bethesda Village group.
13:01:32 From Arlene Polangin : That's in MD
13:02:11 From Diane Bresee to Hosts and panelists : Tell Beverley to stop yelling and butting in when you are talking.
13:02:19 From Arlene Polangin : Patricia I don't know Harby from Oasis Senior Living.
13:02:40 From Arlene Polangin : Do you have a phone # or email for him.
13:02:50 From Cathy Anderson : Is ther any help for folks who may need an Aging Lifecare Manager but unable to pay for it?
13:03:09 From Arlene Polangin : Arlene Polangin akpolan@verizon.net
13:03:26 From Arlene Polangin : 301-530-1595
13:03:32 From zahida hasan : thanks, Patricia, and bye Steve
13:03:46 From liz Tupper to Hosts and panelists : Does your book address or do you have any resource suggestions for solo agers who have financial issues to pay for out of pocket long term care?
13:03:58 From Arlene Polangin : My name, email and phone is for Patricia Dubroof
13:04:04 From Alice Uko to Hosts and panelists : Thanks for this
13:04:08 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Patricia Dubroof 12:59 PM
Beverly, you're 77 years young! Thank you for this great program.
13:04:14 From zahida hasan : I mean Beverly, sorry?
13:04:47 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Anonymous Attendee 01:01 PM
Is anyone familiar with a Trust Protector who knows a person's wishes for estate administration.
Our understanding, from Steve's workshop speakers and educators, they say power of attorney no longer valid at death when an individual or loved one dies and passes away.
The Successor Trustee in the persons estate plan Trust could act once individual passes away.
So Is Trust Protector a new estate planning supporting helping professional?
13:04:48 From Leora Raskas : @Cathy Anderson there are public guardianship programs available.
13:04:50 From lois evans to Hosts and panelists : Penn’s Village provides a Health Pal for solo agers who wish to be accompanied to a MD visit, take notes, remind the member of the questions they had wanted to ask and so on. Members find this a very helpful service.
13:04:58 From Arlene Polangin : Steve, Can you give Patricia Dubroof's email?
13:05:29 From Patricia Dubroof : Arelen, you can reach me at pdubroof@assistinghands.com
13:06:37 From Barbara Osgood to Hosts and panelists : Thank you! Lots of good information.
13:06:44 From Mary Tondreau : Thank you for the information!
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