Author of Parenting Our Parents: Transforming the Challenge into a Journey of Love

A discussion with author of Parenting Our Parents: Transforming the Challenge into a Journey of Love, and the founder of a unique family coaching program that helps families with aging seniors successfully navigate the many confusing and complex practical, emotional, financial, legal and other challenges. Jane Wolf Frances is a licensed psychotherapist, attorney and the founder of ParentingOurParents™ https://parentingourparents.org/

Chat Transcript

12:25:02     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : https://parentingourparents.org/

12:26:14     From  vivian korner   to   Hosts and panelists : Can Jane discuss the challenges when adult siblings are not in agreement of status of parent(s) or what is needed to keep them safe and healthy

12:29:31     From  Dixcy Bosley   to   Hosts and panelists : Get parents to document their wishes in detail 

Siblings need to get over it

12:31:30     From  Arlene Williams : My mom currently lives with me in Northern Virginia.  I am including my siblings who live in Kentucky and Florida.  I agree with Jane that we are lucky that we have Zoom/Facetime etc.

12:31:34     From  Dixcy Bosley   to   Hosts and panelists : Care managers can serve as a neutral party and highlight parents wishes

12:32:10     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : https://www.aginglifecare.org//

12:32:23     From  Arlene Williams : If there is a medical situation you can possibly have the doctor involved

12:32:35     From  Nicole Smith : Some siblings prefer to remain in the dark. Or make things worse by being involved without helping. Drama ensues.

12:36:20     From  Nicole Smith : www.fivewishes.org

12:36:27     From  Patricia Mitchell   to   Hosts and panelists : In my experience people/children leave it too late,… they don’t want to deal with it until they have to…. Any tips around that?

12:36:44     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : www.fivewishes.org

12:37:07     From  Nicole Smith : www.deathoverdinner.org

12:38:15     From  Dixcy Bosley   to   Hosts and panelists : Death cafe.org

12:40:02     From  Arlene Williams : Is there an adult day care where you live?

12:42:05     From  Memella Drake   to   Hosts and panelists : I have one. Mother wants to leave only with the son because she said that it is the son obligation to care for her after the death of her husband. She does not accept anybody else at her home. He has to be devoted to her.

12:42:41     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Helping Older Adults and Caregivers Build the Networks They Need for Successful Aging https://www.retirementlivingsourcebook.com/videos/helping-older-adults-and-caregivers-build-the-networks-they-need-for-successful-aging

12:49:19     From  Nicole Smith : We couldn't convince mom to move...it was conservatorship or psych ward.

12:54:57     From  Nicole Smith : mom was in LA, they took the car keys and she ordered new ones from a locksmith!

12:58:44     From  Mrs. John Honig : Excellent program!

12:58:47     From  Paula David : A conversation I had many years ago with my mother haunts me. She was caring for her parents and they disagreed about something. I advised mom that she needs to let them live their old age. That they were responsible for themselves.

13:01:21     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Caregiver Burden and Alcohol https://www.retirementlivingsourcebook.com/videos/caregiver-burden-and-alcohol

13:02:04     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : ParentingOurParents.org POP Family Coaching https://parentingourparents.org/

13:02:10     From  Joan Green   to   Hosts and panelists : Thanks for a great presentation. It sure is tricky sometimes to let our parents make decisions and live their best life when we think that some of their choices may put their health at risk.

13:03:30     From  Arlene Williams : Thank you so much

13:03:42     From  Wendy : Thank you!

13:03:49     From  Joan Green : Thank you!

13:03:55     From  Memella Drake   to   Hosts and panelists : Thank you very much . Happy Valentines to all.