Authors of Choose Your Place: Rethinking Home As You Age

Amanda Lambert and Leslie Eckford: Co-authors of Choose Your Place: Rethinking Home As You Age ; Aging with Care: Your Guide to Hiring and Managing Caregivers at Home;  and Beating the Senior Blues: How to Feel Better and Enjoy Life Again  

• Link to  Choose Your Place: Rethinking Home As You Age
•  Link to all books by these authors

Chat Transcript

12:09:55     From  Pam Ostrowski : We need adult children to understand the questions to ask

12:13:16     From  Pam Ostrowski : Need to define what "home" is and what "aging in place means"

12:14:01     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Choose Your Place: Rethinking Home As You Age https://www.amazon.com/Choose-Your-Place-Rethinking-Home/dp/B08P3SBRXQ

12:14:04     From  Pam Ostrowski : Dementia and Alzheimer's present challenges for staying in an original home

12:17:20     From  Pam Ostrowski : Excellent conversation! SO IMPORTANT  to talk through this. Sooner is Smarter!

12:17:44     From  Joy Loverde : Hi Pam, this is Joy Loverde... here are a few starter questions from my book, The Complete Eldercare Planner that adult children can ask...  ELDER’S RELOCATION QUESTIONNAIRE

    Do you prefer a city-like setting or more laid-back country lifestyle?

    What do you see yourself doing all day?

    Rent or buy?

    Big place or small?

    Do you want to live with adults only or with multi-generations?

    If moving close to children, will you also relocate if they decide to move?

    Do doctors in the new location accept Medicare?

    How will you get around town?

    Who will help you when the need arises?

    How will you meet new friends and stay social?

    What’s wrong with where you live now?

12:18:00     From  Pam Ostrowski : I know there are more and more innovative ideas about how to handle MCI and early stage to provide stimulation and engagement

12:18:38     From  Pam Ostrowski : Hey Joy! We're in lockstep on the questions! :)

12:19:11     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Holy cow!  I am really excited that we have two authors on stage and two authors in the audience sharing resources!

12:19:46     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Pam Ostrowski https://www.amazon.com/Pam-Ostrowski/e/B08KYN328D?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1655482762&sr=8-1

12:20:09     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Joy Loverde https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Loverde/e/B001JSE8AA?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1655482795&sr=1-1

12:20:21     From  Deborah Dougherty : Any examples of cohousing within an apartment building in urban areas?

12:20:47     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : The Cohousing Association https://www.cohousing.org/

12:21:58     From  Jeanne Bear : example: a senior cohousing new apt bldg. on SE Belmont St in Portland OR

12:23:08     From  Jeanne Bear : that is called PDX Commons Cohousing

12:23:39     From  Jeanne Bear : --urban apt bldg

12:24:16     From  Jeanne Smith : Keeps elders young   and encourages respect for elders from the young

12:24:31     From  Barbara Fowler : https://easternvillage.org/ an example of urban cohousing

12:25:23     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Upside HOM https://www.upsidehom.com/

12:26:13     From  Ken Silverstein : Check out Friends Club, Bethesda, around for over 30 years serving men with early to mid stage Alzheimers and other memory challenges.

12:26:53     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : The effects of cohousing model on people’s health and wellbeing: a scoping review https://publichealthreviews.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40985-020-00138-1

12:28:12     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Silvernest can help with shared housing https://www.silvernest.com/

12:28:27     From  Jeanne Bear : Most west coast cities/areas do have nonprofit matching orgs

12:29:22     From  Glenna Crooks : See also, this group in the DC-Philly corridor. They help do major home concierge-type maintenance adn repair, with seniors as a target market. https://birdwatch.com/

12:29:24     From  Jeanne Bear : for anywhere, a resource:  sharinghousing,com

12:29:28     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Montgomery County MD https://hiphomes.org/counseling-and-education/home-sharing/

12:32:56     From  Pam Ostrowski : Here in Phoenix, those that pulled out their parents placed them again. Being the sandwich generation,  it was too much stress and they weren't skilled or ready

12:35:44     From  Jeanne Bear : Some large cities have very good public transit.

12:36:55     From  Kitty Russell : Great idea... a zoom call about retiring in the city!

12:37:10     From  Geetha Clifford   to   Hosts and panelists : Hi, I’m probably not on the right call but my parents are resistant to moving. My mother has Parkinson’s and Alzheimers and my dad is the caregiver (89 with physical ailments) . How do I make their home safe?

12:38:14     From  Pam Ostrowski : alzheimersfamilyconsulting.com Let's talk.

12:38:24     From  Geetha Clifford   to   Hosts and panelists : Thank you

12:38:51     From  Eve Hill : We enjoy helping older adults and their families through the Aging-in-Place process customizedaging@gmail.com

12:38:54     From  Betty Bahadori : And recorded sessions about home adaption

12:39:45     From  Barbara Fowler : Aging Life Care Professionals can support caregivers by doing evaluations, facilitation family meetings and navigating resources: https://www.aginglifecare.org/

12:40:02     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Retire Abroad? Discussion with Dan Prescher, Senior Editor of International Living https://www.retirementlivingsourcebook.com/videos/retire-abroad-discussion-with-dan-prescher-senior-editor-of-international-living

12:40:02     From  Robert Pearson   to   Hosts and panelists : Are there community block grants or other public resources to finance some of the innovative housing concepts such as co-housing?

12:40:51     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : INTERNATIONAL LIVING https://internationalliving-magazine.com/

12:41:43     From  Robert Pearson   to   Hosts and panelists : A family member knew a quadriplegic who moved to Central America so he could afford 24 x 7 assistance

12:42:25     From  Nancy Fiedelman : Parkinson resource - Parkinson Social Network www.parkinsonsocialnetwork.org; 571-286-5000

12:45:09     From  Robert Pearson   to   Hosts and panelists : Great surfing in Costa Rica!

12:46:18     From  Pam Ostrowski : LOVE Chapter 7's title! :)

12:46:33     From  Jeanne Bear : Creating Home as you age: Further stages of life

12:47:03     From  Anthony Nunez : Great point on planning for the worst

12:47:15     From  Robert Pearson   to   Hosts and panelists : ‘ Blessed are the pessimists for they have made backups”

12:47:26     From  Jeanne Bear : Also planning ahead for the next stage of life

12:49:33     From  Anthony Nunez : I am going to buy this book for my mom, she needs that flexibility mentality from ch 8.

12:50:39     From  Anthony Nunez : Great point Steve

12:51:43     From  Pam Ostrowski : It's sad how few adult children are willing to have a detailed level of conversation to look at ALL of the triggers and drivers for different care options

12:52:08     From  Lindsey Vajpeyi : Love this conversation! Options and flexibility are so important. I particularly think about families with dementia who have to rethink their living environments due to changing needs for the person with dementia and care partner. Lindsey from Insight Memory Care Center

12:52:11     From  Pam Ostrowski : I'm focused on building that awareness but we need MORE people out there encouraging these conversations. THANK YOU for this presentation!

12:52:43     From  Geetha Clifford   to   Hosts and panelists : That’s amazing but my parents have said no for four years

12:52:55     From  Jose Ramos : What will you do if by 2030 there are not enough resources: caregivers, doctors, institutional care? What is your only option is to move Mom in?

12:54:48     From  Jeanne Bear : Ask what would be those preferences/needs that you'd miss in your image of "living in a home"?

12:54:55     From  Glenna Crooks : For one thing, stop calling it 'a home.' That has such a negative image. So many of today's 'communities' and very nice and really function as a supportive community.

12:54:56     From  Anthony Nunez : I like that point Leslie

12:56:02     From  Pam Ostrowski : LOL Glenna! I rant about "home" terminology a bit in my book. SO many people misuse that term, including those in senior healthcare

12:56:15     From  Anthony Nunez : Anthony Nunez     https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-nuñez-b1999948/

12:56:23     From  Pam Ostrowski : and it's not a "Facility" either! It's a Community!

12:56:26     From  Jeanne Bear : Find out what people are focusing on when they say "a home"?

12:56:38     From  Jose Ramos : Kin-Keepers develops an utterance translation device for those living with ADRD. see how at https://www.Kin-Keepers.com

12:57:05     From  Pam Ostrowski : Have to go but THANK YOU for the conversation!

12:57:09     From  Anthony Nunez : INF Care    https://inf.care/  If you are in the Northern Va area, check us out for an option for home care

12:57:36     From  Anthony Nunez : Great event Steve, where can I pick up the book?

12:57:41     From  Maggie Osborne : For whatever reason, I am unable to copy/paste the chat info--will you also add resources/chat info to what you send out to the audience, please and thank you!

12:57:44     From  Jeanne W : oops. NO thakns

12:57:59     From  Anthony Nunez : Great, thank Amanda

12:58:18     From  Jeanne Bear : Can you save and send the chat?

12:58:21     From  Jeanne Smith : Yes  Just got book  !!

12:58:22     From  Barbara Fowler   to   Hosts and panelists : thank you so much!

12:58:36     From  Jeannine Clark   to   Hosts and panelists : Thank you!