Montcordia invites you to join us for a discussion that will take a humorous, irreverent, and poignant look at the gifts, stereotypes, and inevitable challenges of aging Steven Petrow is an award-winning journalist and book author who is best known for his Washington Post and New York Times essays on aging, health, and civility.
This special event is brought to you by Montcordia with support from the Positive Aging Community
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12:05:32 From Jency Suresh : Jency Suresh, Social Work intern, Housing Opportunities Commission, MD.
12:05:46 From Ginger Doetsch : Please share the really useful info you shared before starting the video in an email to us.
12:06:23 From Barbara Trainin Blank : Hi, all. I’m co-author of What to Do about Mama, two volumes about caring for aging (and other) family members. By Sunbury Press.
12:06:41 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Link to Stevens book on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Stupid-Things-Wont-When-Unapologetically-ebook/dp/B08KL58Q4X?asin=B08KL58Q4X&revisionId=f8badb6a&format=1&depth=1
12:06:52 From Barbara Trainin Blank : Sorry, left out name. Barbara Trainin Blank, an author-journalist.
12:07:00 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Jill Berkman
Business Development Manager
Jill.Berkman@montcordia.com
M: 240-517-5003 T: 240-331-5627
montcordia.com
12:07:07 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Montcordia
12:07:52 From Susan Blum : Susan Blum - soon to be emeritus director of care management with Debra Levy Eldercare Associates - www.care-manager.com - 301-593-5285
12:07:58 From Jasmin Linder : Great Job Jill !
12:08:07 From Pam Phillips to Hosts and panelists : Fabulous Panelists and happy to be on this Webinar, Thank you Steve!
12:08:10 From James Lerner : HI Jill! - It's Robin Lerner
12:08:17 From Gwendolyn Lloyd : Hi Everyone Gwen Lloyd Director of programs from Senior Network of North Baltimore
12:08:18 From Larissa Johnson : Larissa Johnson, MPA
Residential Energy Program Manager
Montgomery County Department of Environmental Protection
www.MontgomeryEnergyConnection.org
12:08:29 From shayla Mitchell : Great job Jill & Montcordia!
12:08:41 From Pam Phillips to Hosts and panelists : Pamela Phillips, Client Development Manager
12:08:58 From Lori Wertz : lori.wertz@c21nm.com LOTS of Real Satisfied Testimonials on how I can get you and loved ones into and out of their precious life-long homes. 703.201.6523 Feel Better Steven!!!
12:09:02 From Pam Phillips to Hosts and panelists : Home instead - pamela.phillips@homeinstead.com
12:09:12 From Cindy Kardeman : hi everyone, Cindy from Dave Reynolds and Associates, LLC, Personal fitness specialists.
12:09:15 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : From Pam Phillips to All Panelists 12:09 PM
Home instead - pamela.phillips@homeinstead.com
12:09:29 From Ruth DeHart : Ruth DeHart...helping organizations transform the 50+ consumer experience.
12:09:33 From Steve Lahn : Great name :)
12:09:40 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : From Pam Phillips to All Panelists 12:08 PM
Fabulous Panelists and happy to be on this Webinar, Thank you Steve!
12:10:04 From Elva Roy : Hello from Arlington, Texas. Elva Roy, Ambassadors For Aging Well.org
12:10:13 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : From Christy MacCormack to All Panelists 12:02 PM
Good afternoon, Christy MacCormack, Naborforce.
12:10:24 From Leesa Ackermann : Leesa Ackermann from Indiana, owner of Health Advocate Professionals LLC. I’m a care manager, legal guardian, trustee, health advocate, etc.
12:10:32 From Jessica Bittner : Hello Everyone,
12:10:35 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : From Teresa Funkhouser to All Panelists 12:03 PM
Teresa Funkhouser, Shenandoah County Parks & Recreation, Woodstock, VA - Senior Program Supervisor
12:10:39 From Bonnie Barrella : Hi everyone...This is Bonnie Barrella, Director of Sales and Marketing at The Residences at Thomas Circle... Thank you Steve and Jill and it is so nice to see both of you, though virtual
12:10:43 From Steve Jakubowski : Hi Everyone! Steve Jakubowski, a Chartered Retirement Plan Counselor and Financial Advisor with Edward Jones based in Gaithersburg and Rockville. I work with people and their families through their retirement years. Steve.jakubowski@edwardjones.com, 301-803-9531.
12:10:56 From Jennifer Late : Jennifer Late, Lifecare Affordability Plan, jlate@seia.com
12:11:01 From Lori Wertz to Hosts and panelists : Cindy and Dave, where are you located?
12:11:17 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : From Lori Wertz to All Panelists 12:11 PM
Cindy and Dave, where are you located?
12:11:20 From Rebekah Goetz : Rebekah Goetz, VP Montcordia. rebekah.goetz@montcordia.com cell: 703.431.8243 office: 240.331.5627
12:12:19 From Ginger Doetsch : There is no way for us to copy and paste all the rich information in the chat. Will it be sent to us along with the VIDEO LINK for this great presentation?
12:12:20 From Allyson Stanton to Hosts and panelists : Allyson Stanton, aging life care manager, stantonagingsolutions.com 443-812-1028
12:12:24 From Mary Williams : Wouldn't you love to interview some Russians for their insight and input! I wonder if it would be a lot different from what you've gathered here.
12:12:35 From Mark Sargent : Mark Sargent
12:12:45 From shoaleh Alai to Hosts and panelists : Hi Jill and Steve, thanks for this webinar.
Shoaleh at Fox Hill
foxhill.dos@sunriseseniorliving.com
12:12:56 From Cindy Kardeman : Dave Reynolds and Associates is located in Silver Spring. We provide group exercise classes for older adults as well as personal training
12:13:09 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Hi Jill and Steve, thanks for this webinar.
Shoaleh at Fox Hill
foxhill.dos@sunriseseniorliving.com
12:13:10 From Kathleen Weber : Hi, Mark,
12:13:32 From Cindy Kardeman : my email is draftiness@comcast.net or office number: 301-439-3274
12:13:57 From ellen sirkis : Ellen Sirkis, Bereavement Facilitator, Caring Matters, Inc. Non-Medical Hospice serving Mont. Co. for over 30 years.
12:14:50 From Jessica Bittner : Jessica Bittner from Partners In Care with programs available in Frederick and Washington County for 60 + adults. Looking for volunteers if anyone knows anybody in these counties in Maryland
12:15:27 From Mary Williams : For Kind Unlimited subscribers, I'm happy to see our wonderful book for today is listed on the set of books available to us subscribers.
12:15:58 From Robin Mooney : Robin Mooney, Exec Dir, Home With You Senior Care - 410-756-0959 Providing inhome care, non-medical.
12:16:55 From Christy MacCormack to Hosts and panelists : Boy, can I relate to the hearing aide debacle!
12:16:56 From Barbara Trainin Blank to Hosts and panelists : I recently used your column on hearing aids for a newsletter I write. So thank you.
12:20:06 From James Lerner : Hi Steven!!
12:20:55 From David Slupe : David Slupe - Director at Aging Consultants Group & Financial Planner at Pegasus Financial Group ••• dslupe@agingconsultantsgroup.com ••• We assist clients and bring clarity by merging care planning with financial planning through education, preparation, and coordination.
12:22:04 From Mary Williams : I'm a double spacer too. It makes it easier to read!
12:22:31 From Kenneth Reichardt : Yes, some habits are hard to change LOL
12:22:42 From Ruth Percival to Hosts and panelists : No! I refuse to use one space! ????
12:23:03 From Sharon Rose : Good one! I am a double-spacer, too. Nice that computers do it for us now.
12:23:29 From Sharon Rose : T-shirt good idea...Boomer and happy about it :)
12:23:41 From Elva Roy : The problem with double spacer is if you want it to be published, it all has to be corrected to single space after a period. LOL.
12:24:06 From Poppy Foddrell : amen to that!!!
12:24:30 From Lori Wertz : I love the multi generational friends comment. In addition to being a Realtor, I teach an aquatic fitness class the entire 16 year career and love it!!!
12:24:45 From Joe Sperling : Not passing up a urinal is one of the 3 rules of getting older.
12:24:57 From Lori Wertz : lol
12:25:47 From Gwendolyn Lloyd : I Love it... I make sure I use the bathroom if I come across one in my travels ...its like a safety blanket now!
12:25:55 From Sharon Rose : Ageism being tackled by WHO with Decade of Healthy Ageing, 2020-2030.
12:26:29 From Steve Lahn : I am guilty of double spacing taught to me in my high school typing class ????
12:26:59 From Elva Roy : One interesting trend is young women who are coloring their hair gray. Interesting, eh?
12:27:03 From Deborah Dougherty : start with stating your age not hiding it.
12:27:31 From Joe Sperling : Many older actresses have white or gray hair and look fab!
12:27:56 From Janet Wright : Gray is the new blonde!
12:28:13 From Julia Williams : My 40something girlfriend let her gray grow out during the pandemic and has kept it :)
12:28:33 From Joe Sperling : Age is just a number...and mine is unlisted.
12:28:54 From Steve Lahn : ????
12:28:55 From Aileen Klein : Any idea why I cannot copy and of these texts?
12:29:00 From Robin Mooney : Happy to bring on each new year!
12:29:48 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Hi folks we will have a copy of all the chat messages and recordings posted this afternoon at https://www.retirementlivingsourcebook.com/digital-discussions
12:30:18 From Aileen Klein : Thank you so much!!
12:30:27 From Paula Osborne : I love the idea of being older, it beats the alternative, so the aches and pains I welcome and the process is hard at times, but I accept it
12:31:50 From Christy MacCormack : Haha!
12:31:59 From Lori Wertz : AMEN
12:32:22 From Steve Lahn : Unfortunately these conversations happen with those of us in our 40s and 50s let alone in the older generation
12:33:10 From Steve Lahn : YUP!
12:33:21 From Sharon Rose : Slowly, products are showing age-related, healthy older adults happily using useful products. Also, technology devices are expanding to customize tech to lifestyle choices and activities!
12:33:30 From Cheryl Calvert : many of my friends seem to have nothing else to talk about...
12:33:49 From ellen sirkis : My post cancer mantra " I have some problems but I am alive to bitch about them"
12:34:26 From Steve Lahn : Bravo Ellen!
12:34:45 From ellen sirkis to Hosts and panelists : Thank you and congratulations to all of us who made it and are thriving.
12:34:55 From Deborah Barbara : Aging and sickness- too often I am hearing my issues are related to age. So the medical profession seems to stop there. How do I know what is age and what is sickness?
12:35:59 From KAREN DUDLEY : I accept the process of aging like that fine glass of wine, whiskey, or well aging cheese. Even when the bones in my body remind me I'm in my 50's.
12:36:05 From Joe Sperling : Bright red shiny new super stock Dodge?
12:36:06 From Lori Wertz : As I listen/watch this, I have a bag of frozen vegs on my elevated right knee. (I'm ONLY 59)!
12:36:53 From Steve Lahn : Long Island DMV seems to be very responsive on things like this
12:37:44 From Joe Sperling : Cars represent freedom.
12:38:25 From Susan Blum : It is so hard for people to give up driving, as it is so connected to our sense of independence. If there are cognitive deficits, that adds to the difficulty of families to address this issue.
12:38:45 From Steve Lahn : So True Susan
12:38:45 From Bonnie Barrella : Driving is the last freedom an individual wants to give up!
12:38:55 From Linda Newsum : Had a client who went into major depression after being forced to stop driving. It's horrible to have your wings clipped.
12:39:22 From Roberta Comer : A blessing of sorts - My dad (with Alzheimers) was hit by another car and his car was totaled, so we insisted that he cannot buy another. Still very difficult. Unfortunately, his elderly "girlfriend" let him drive her car.
12:39:37 From Mike P : We had a similar problem - our mother would not listen to her children - what got her attention was when her doctor discussed the issue with her.
12:39:47 From Kitty Russell : my 102 year old aunt uses an umbrella instead of a cane.
12:39:53 From Lori Wertz : change and transition is hard at every age, it takes practice and preparation by the individual to realize it is for them to maintain and be independent.
12:39:58 From Cindy Kardeman : It's hard to watch each piece of independence slip away.....
12:40:04 From Kathleen McGuinness to Hosts and panelists : HI Jill & Steve! nice program!
12:40:12 From Christy MacCormack : I agree Joe, cars do represent freedom! Taking the keys away is a painful necessity. The song Freebird comes to mind. Ha!
12:41:13 From Karen Dotson : In the future when cars drive themselves, this will be a non-issue - haha
12:41:38 From Paula Osborne : Funny story short....My mom is 85, still driving, I asked her to start taking uber/lyft to her doctor appointments to cut down on driving, when she got back, she said to me, and you want me to stop driving, after going on that trip with the young driver, she almost killed me, so I will continue to drive from now on, I drive better!
12:43:29 From Christy MacCormack : In the beginning of your parent having dementia, you are in a denial of sorts that they are not their old self. Amen?
12:44:21 From Joe Sperling : Dementia is an absolute bitch. Empathy is SOOOO vital.
12:45:03 From Susan Blum : We have to understand that dementia is a brain disease. Tam Cummings book, Untangling Alzheimer's, is a great help to families trying to and understand their parents with dementia.
12:45:18 From Kenneth Reichardt : Definitely write it down so ALL loved ones get the same information
12:45:54 From Dixcy Bosley to Hosts and panelists : Teepa Snow OT is a Dementia Whisperer
12:46:28 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Virtual Dementia Tour®️ https://www.secondwind.org/virtual-dementia-tourreg.html
12:46:43 From Leesa Ackermann : I want to suggest that you do not have to choose your adult children as your POA, healthcare rep, or make any decisions on your behalf. You need to feel empowered to choose someone you trust who will honor your wishes and your belongings.
12:47:04 From Ginger Doetsch : Please add a brief description of the Virtual Dementia Tour
12:48:15 From Joe Sperling : Writing one's own obit is intriguing. Who knows us better than ourselves.
12:48:16 From Steve Lahn : We know the legal and medical stuff that we NEED to do, but how many actually are proactive and do it?
12:48:30 From Karen Dotson : I once knew an independent woman who wrote her obituary in the first person. First time I ever saw something like that and it was SO her! Loved it!
12:48:39 From BOB HOFFMAN to Hosts and panelists : there are many web sites that can provide ideas on how to write your own obituary
12:49:03 From Christy MacCormack : I think I’d like my friends to write my eulogy! But could turn into a roast. :)
12:49:07 From Elva Roy : Ginger, the virtual dementia tour includes putting on goggles to reduce vision, earphones to diminish hearing, gloves to make it harder to use your hands, etc. Then you're given some assignments in rapid order that you're supposed to remember and do them in order. Very challenging.
12:49:20 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : https://www.washingtonpost.com/02147fde-064e-11ea-8292-c46ee8cb3dce_story.html
12:49:38 From ellen sirkis : We all can write our own legacy letters, our values to pass on.Start with your basics and the rest will come easily.
12:49:50 From Joe Sperling : WE NEED MORE TIME WITH STEVEN!
12:50:02 From Joe Sperling : Bring him back.
12:50:08 From James Lerner : Thank you Steven! Great to see you Jill!
12:50:43 From Ginger Doetsch : Please also share good stuff in the Q&A that is not in the CHAT.
12:50:44 From iPhone to Hosts and panelists : Great presentation. Thank you
12:52:11 From Joe Sperling : Too soon old, too late smart.
12:52:40 From Paula Osborne : Joe, that is what I was just thinking
12:53:18 From Steve Jefferys to Hosts and panelists : I have my clients fill out an “Aging & Driving” and “Diminished Capacity” forms that they we can discuss with their family/trusted contacts. Steve Jefferys - Arch Financial Advisors www.archfinancialadvisors.com
12:53:31 From Sharon Rose : #Elllen, there are websites for legacy letters as well as writers who will work with the person to write the legacy. Also, it can start early in life with starting and continuing family Zoom calls and one-on-ones with grandchildren to share experiences about growing up. Also, it can be a valuable time for grandparents and grandchildren to have their own time with out the adult child. Here they can exchange learning, innovations, technology, activities, etc. with the older adult learning from the grandchild and vica versa. All good!
12:54:07 From Christy MacCormack : Steven, I am ordering your book! Thank you so much for your amazing insights!
12:54:21 From Steven Petrow to Hosts and panelists : sp@stevenpetrow.com
12:54:24 From Jan Brito : Reading the book now and really enjoying it
12:54:41 From ellen sirkis : Thank you for sharing all of this with everyone;just getting started is the only difficult part and these resources make it easy.
12:54:55 From Ginger Doetsch : ADD YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS TO THE CHAT REQUESTING STEVE TO EMAIL YOU.
12:55:29 From ellen sirkis to Hosts and panelists : ellensirkis@gmail.com
12:55:36 From Barbara Trainin Blank to Hosts and panelists : Please send me Steven Petrow’s email. Thanks. Barbara Trainin Blank.
12:55:39 From Mary Williams : Now I totally want the hologram
12:56:04 From Elva Roy : Diane Rehm, NPR talk show host (previous), recorded her conversation with her grandson so there is no question about what she wanted at end of life (to avoid how her husband had to die using VSED).
12:56:16 From Dixcy Bosley to Hosts and panelists : It is also critical to assure our elders that we will advocate fiercely on their behalf so that their final months/ years will not have to endure over treatment. This brings them comfort they deserve snd a gift we can give them
12:56:16 From Steve Lahn : Holograms or videos weve seen in the movies! Avenger's Endgame, Brewster's Millions ????
12:57:31 From Steve Lahn : It is a darn good name
12:57:59 From Ruth DeHart to Hosts and panelists : This was a wise and powerful session. Starting my own list as I listened. Thank you.
12:58:30 From Kathryn Parker Martin to Hosts and panelists : Thank you for this special topic...using our lessons learned from dealing with loved ones from the older generation, we baby boomers need to plan how to be less burdensome in the future...and the humor is appreciated
12:58:42 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : From Ruth DeHart to All Panelists 12:57 PM
This was a wise and powerful session. Starting my own list as I listened. Thank you.
From Kathryn Parker Martin to All Panelists 12:58 PM
Thank you for this special topic...using our lessons learned from dealing with loved ones from the older generation, we baby boomers need to plan how to be less burdensome in the future...and the humor is appreciated
12:58:52 From Gwendolyn Lloyd : Thank you so much Steve, Jill, and Steven for this most valuable information. its been fun and very inspiring! I don't feel so bad about peeing so much now. lol!
12:59:02 From Pam Phillips to Hosts and panelists : Is 5 Wishes from https://fivewishes.org/five-wishes/individuals-families/individuals-and-families allowed in the State of VA? I plan on using this with my clients, but want it to be something that can be easily helpful with advanced planning documents being completed with this document. Do you have knowledge of this? Thank you all so very much! Pam Phillips
12:59:14 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : From Gwendolyn Lloyd to Everyone 12:58 PM
Thank you so much Steve, Jill, and Steven for this most valuable information. its been fun and very inspiring! I don't feel so bad about peeing so much now. lol!
From Pam Phillips to All Panelists 12:59 PM
Is 5 Wishes from https://fivewishes.org/five-wishes/individuals-families/individuals-and-families allowed in the State of VA? I plan on using this with my clients, but want it to be something that can be easily helpful with advanced planning documents being completed with this document. Do you have knowledge of this? Thank you all so very much! Pam Phillips
12:59:26 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : buy the book at https://www.amazon.com/Stupid-Things-Wont-When-Unapologetically-ebook/dp/B08KL58Q4X?asin=B08KL58Q4X&revisionId=f8badb6a&format=1&depth=1
12:59:26 From Steve Jakubowski : Hi everyone, I recommend people check out this great report too. "The Four Pillars of Retirement." https://agewave.com/the-four-pillars-of-the-new-retirement/
12:59:31 From Sharon Rose : Thank you Steve P, Steve G and Jill!
12:59:37 From Christy MacCormack : Steve, can we get signed stickers from you to put in our books?
12:59:39 From Renee Groban to Hosts and panelists : Thank you for this wonderful webinar! Thoroughly enjoyed and going to purchase your book.
12:59:50 From Erin Nesbitt : Wonderful discussion! Thank you
12:59:52 From Jency Suresh : Thank you all!
12:59:56 From Leslie Clarke : Thank you so much Steve, Jill, and Steven!
12:59:56 From Gwen Jones : Thank you!
12:59:58 From Susan Blum : This was a great presentation.
12:59:58 From Paula Osborne : Thank you!
13:00:02 From Leesa Ackermann : Thank you!
13:00:03 From Christy MacCormack : Thank you so much!
13:00:04 From Amy Ojeifo to Hosts and panelists : Thank you!! This has been great!
13:00:04 From Keri Pollock to Hosts and panelists : Thank you!
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