How to Live Forever: A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life

Join us for a live and interactive discussion with Kimberly Best who encourages you to consider what you want the final chapter of your life to look and feel like, providing you with tools and prompts that can help you have difficult conversations regarding legal decisions, health care plans, relationships, and death and dying. If we recognize the finite nature of our days, we can live purposefully, plan ahead for the end of our life story, and die without regret, living fully to the end and finishing well.

Chat Transcript

12:06:22     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : How to Live Forever: A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story https://a.co/d/9eZOI1Y

12:19:45     From  zahida hasan : I just turned 65 and have taken medicare, and am beginning to think about these living forever kinds of ideas so am watching

12:22:21     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Here are our end of life https://www.retirementlivingsourcebook.com/videos?q=end%20of%20life

12:23:34     From  Leslie McTyre : When I read the title I thought it would lead to changing our view on very negative or pessimistic opinions on life expectancy which our commercial culture leads us to. We may be able to prolong our lives just by ignoring the hurry-up-and-die nature of advertisement industry demons coupled to all the suggestions you are now discussing.

12:24:10     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Ryan Salmon 12:17 PM 

As an OT who works in home health/hospice, we encourage and facilitate opportunities for remeniscing as a valuable occupation.  I like the idea of recording these conversations for family to listen to later as well as coming up with a written document.  I would love a recommended list of questions to ask if you have this…maybe you address this in the book?

12:24:11     From  Chris Palmer : Hi Kimberly, I'm intrigued by your book title. Would you please explain it?

12:25:03     From  Carolyn Cook   to   Hosts and panelists : To follow-up on Ms. Best’s critical points regarding end of life decision-making, here is potential resource and addendum to an advanced directive in case you or your loved one develops Alzheimers or another form of dementia.                                                                    https://www.compassionandchoices.org/docs/default-source/default-document-library/dementia-provision-only-final-6-29-20-pdf.pdf?sfvrsn=2aebdcb5_2

12:25:17     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : From Carolyn Cook to All Panelists 12:25 PM

To follow-up on Ms. Best’s critical points regarding end of life decision-making, here is potential resource and addendum to an advanced directive in case you or your loved one develops Alzheimers or another form of dementia.                                                                    https://www.compassionandchoices.org/docs/default-source/default-document-library/dementia-provision-only-final-6-29-20-pdf.pdf?sfvrsn=2aebdcb5_2

12:25:48     From  Chris Palmer : StoryWorth is excellent!

12:26:14     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : toryworth books are designed to last for generations to come. We’ve sourced quality materials that look great now and age gracefully over time to honor the stories within. https://welcome.storyworth.com/

12:30:17     From  Kerry Ann Sandsmark : I am with Keys-for-Caregivers.com - when I have this discussion with people I ask them to really think about and write down what their 'perfect day' would be like. This is a very positive and fun way to get the answer to family and friends of what they believe is a good quality of life. Family can also read this and judge whether their loved one is living their idea of a quality life even if they can no longer talk for themselves.

12:30:19     From  zahida hasan : On my dad's 96th birthday this year, my niece made a theme for the party using bicylcles, that he rode from India to Pakistan, and so on she highlighted his life, coming to AMerica, she's 11 years old, and we are Pakistani AMericanas

12:32:07     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : From Kerry Ann Sandsmark to Everyone 12:30 PM

I am with Keys-for-Caregivers.com - when I have this discussion with people I ask them to really think about and write down what their 'perfect day' would be like. This is a very positive and fun way to get the answer to family and friends of what they believe is a good quality of life. Family can also read this and judge whether their loved one is living their idea of a quality life even if they can no longer talk for themselves.

12:33:49     From  neda McGuire : Yup.....love the living celebration......having one for my Dad next month as he turns 90.  We should have these more than when someone dies!

12:37:17     From  zahida hasan : thank you for reading this Steve Sir

12:40:41     From  Chris Palmer : Kimberly, if there's time, I'd love to hear your views on ethical wills, MAID, and green burials. Thanks!

12:44:10     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Ethical will https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethical_will

12:44:33     From  Susan V   to   Hosts and panelists : excellent questions, I want to know more as well

12:45:45     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : End-of-Life Care: Medical Aid in Dying https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33166105/

12:46:40     From  zahida hasan : really enjoyed listening and all the different facets, Kimberly

12:47:36     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Green burial is a way of caring for the dead with minimal environmental impact that aids in the conservation of natural resources, reduction of carbon emissions, protection of worker health,and the restoration

and/or preservation of habitat. https://www.greenburialcouncil.org/

12:51:24     From  Jeanne Kolodner : Is there any way around state laws that require concrete "caskets" around the regular casket.?

12:52:34     From  Jeanne Kolodner : Pennsylvania

12:54:45     From  Carolyn Cook : What an incredibly well-rounded discussion on so many important issues that we have the opportunity to address with your insights - Thank you, Ms. Best! I hope you can come back and speak on some of your other areas of expertise such as conflict resolution and storytelling.

12:54:51     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Kimberly Best, RN, MA

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12:54:53     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Kim@bestconflictsolutions.com

12:56:19     From  zahida hasan : feel better Kimberly, you were completely clear ….bye

12:56:31     From  zahida hasan : Bye Mr. Steve, G...

12:57:19     From  Daniel Richardson : Wonderful discussion. Thanks

12:57:30     From  Chris Palmer : Steve and Kimberly, thanks so much for a wonderful discussion! You guys are the best!  Best wishes, Chris Palmer

12:57:31     From  Kerry Ann Sandsmark : Great conversation! Thank you for your time.

12:57:43     From  Susan V   to   Hosts and panelists : Loved this discussion, thanks

12:57:52     From  Betty Wilkins   to   Hosts and panelists : Thank you

12:58:01     From  Sharron DuBose : Thank you, great discussion!

12:58:25     From  Catherine Freedberg   to   Hosts and panelists : Pls have her back. Excellent. As are all your programs. For one who needs ro consult with an expert one on one. Where to start?

12:58:26     From  Carolyn Cook : That would be amazing to discuss how the medical profession’s hands are tied and the reality of our taking stock in our live’s right now and going forward! Thank you both for your commitment to aging well!

12:58:51     From  Ryan Salmon   to   Hosts and panelists : Many Thanks Steve and Kim!