Fostering the right solutions & connections
for more than 33 years
for more than 33 years
Joy Loverde has a reputation for being a path carver and visionary. Joy is the author of the "Who Will Take Care Of Me When I’m Old?" and "The Complete Eldercare Planner." The American Medical Association says, “It’s the best book we’ve seen.” Co-hosted by Carol Marak author of Solo and Smart.
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12:12:17 From Jenna Jones : Hello everyone - Solo Agers looking for ways to enjoy life long learning can connect with Smithsonian Associates. I'm their Volunteer Coordinator and some of our best volunteers are solo agers! Join us! https://smithsonianassociates.org/ticketing/volunteer/
12:12:33 From Bonnie Silverman : Hello, this is Bonnie Silverman, president of Silverman Insurance Services - bonnie@silvermaninsure.com 215-922-3544 with 30+ years of experience insurance, aging, and long term care. I do care!
12:13:21 From Jenna Jones : oops! My name is Jenna Jones, CVA, Volunteer Coordinator for Smithsonian Associates
https://smithsonianassociates.org/ticketing/
12:14:22 From Jason Scadron : Hi everyone. I'm Jason Scadron, Village Coordinator for Fairfax Village in the City (Fairfax, VA)
12:14:46 From Stephanie Martirani : Hello everyone! I'm Stephanie Martirani, independent patient advocate, 25 mi east of San Francisco.
12:14:46 From Meryl Schaffer : Meryl Schaffer TLC Daily Money Mentor, LLC 240-338-3332(cell phone) Meryl@TLCDailyMOneyMentor.com www.TLCDailyMoneyMentor.cam. I take away the agony & frustration from those who will not and/or have any interest in taking care of their day to day finances. Please remember that Meryl will keep you out of peril & Schaffer will keep your records safer.
12:14:59 From SHARON HOST : Hi all, I'm Sharon Host. An occupational therapist specializing in Memory Care and soon to be retiree. So excited to learn about this!
12:16:04 From Margaret Newman : Hello, I am Margaret Newman, Ex Director with Friendship Heights Neighbors Network, a Village in Montgomery County.
12:16:42 From Joe Sperling : Solo Agers need to protect their options for care,
Through preparation and planning!
Learn about Long-Term Care coverage.
Do so while you can, Before the need for care happens. Feel GREAT by putting plans in place.
12:17:52 From Jane Eleey : Hello, This is Jane Eleey, Executive Director of Penn's Village in Philadelphia, PA
12:18:52 From Melissa Bressler : Melissa Bressler, Outreach Manager of HandyPro of Washington DC Metropolitan / Licensed Occupational Therapist / Mother & Caregiver / Melissa@handypro.com / 301-960-9830 / Proving safe and accessible homes through environmental modifications regardless of age or disability. Planning ahead is the key to unlocking the door on aging well.
12:19:13 From Vanessa Ripps : Vanessa Ripps Director of Volunteer Services, Silver Spring Village.
12:21:48 From Joe Sperling : Making decisions in a panic are usually not good ones. Stress and pressure is not conducive to best decisions.
12:21:54 From Rita Sherman : my question: how can I network and meet other people my age and other ages so I might create my own circle of friends who can help each other or help with resources?
12:22:25 From faith drummond : I certainly understand the need to think critically. However, there is m much in life we can’t control: termination from our job at age 55, serious illness at age 63, etc.
12:22:51 From Meryl Schaffer : All these concepts are SSSOOO true when it comes to managing finances.
12:22:54 From Andrea Brown : Are your books available at the Loudoun county libraries?
12:23:48 From AnnMarie Riehl : @ Faith - I am trying to get a circle started within Baltimore County through the Department of Aging. Reach out to your local Aging Services Office.
12:25:49 From Joe Sperling : Excellent point Joy! Look inward before looking outward!
12:25:58 From Rita Sherman : more specifically, does THIS GROUP have a way to meet each other in person, especially with COVID.
12:26:14 From Rita Sherman : is this group doing anything in person?
12:26:49 From Jenna Jones : Agree that friendships echo what you put into them. As someone who doesn't have kids, my dearest friends have become like family to me. And my husband and I reached out to the young family across the street and they've been in our "pod" during Covid. We help each other and have become close.
12:26:50 From Michael Yublosky : My wife and Judy actually stated a local senior adults group in our area in 2017. We went to the park district who still sponsors us. We have been on Zoom for two years and just today I spoke with their IT person about dual meetings. We do socials, lunches, outings, volunteer, provide COVID supplies, education, etc. http://sagesofbg.wordpress.com
12:27:38 From Lisa Cook : I am a great friend to have - I give friends rides to and from the airport, hospital etc. While it's easy to go to Meetups and meet people, I think it's very hard to find people who want to commit to having others' backs. I've been building community for 11 years.
12:27:48 From sara sheets to Hosts and panelists : I am host for a group supporting people Living Solo to develop relationships that people can count on when they need someone in their corner. It is an out growth of the Organization Villages N.W. The Villages movement started in Boston and is available nationwide. It is for helping people stay in their homes as long as possible and for social interactions.
12:30:13 From Audra Backaitis : True....but it takes a friend to be a friend
12:30:26 From Teri Glaspy : Asking for help is much harder than receiving sometimes, but it shows others we have vulnerabilities too! This tends to build strong friendships.
12:31:04 From Aileen Klein : thank you for having both zoom and live events in the future!! Thank you also for recognizing that even though we fully intend to watch your zooms. Sometimes, we get interrupted, and by you sending links to past events is really wonder.
12:31:04 From Roseann Sellani to Hosts and panelists : Isn’t the bottom line finding someone younger who will agree to advocate for you when you can’t for yourself?
12:31:10 From Wendy Kuhn : Wendy Kuhn, wendy@naborforce.com. Naborforce provides companionship for aging adults - there is no reason to be SOLO! Our Nabor visits help, combat loneliness and provide assistance with transportation, errands , meal prep and exchange in meaningful conversations, forging special relationships!
12:31:16 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Here are the previous discussions on Solo Aging https://www.retirementlivingsourcebook.com/videos?q=solo+aging
12:31:23 From Bonnie Silverman : I am also a member of The Transition Network in Philadelphia, PA (TTN). it is a wonderful women's group.
12:32:18 From Miriam Zucker to Hosts and panelists : Micki Zucker, Geriatric Care Manager, New Rochelle, New York, www.directionsinaging.com. Had a call from a well woman whose husband was her POA. He now has dementia. She needed advice about who she could turn to take over that role. Her attorney and friends have turned down her request, no children. Any thoughts?
12:32:29 From ann johnson : Joy, you are so spot on!!!!
12:32:47 From Kelly Miller to Hosts and panelists : You can usually tell from the outside when a household is in that place
12:32:50 From D. Schafer to Hosts and panelists : How can I connect directly/privately with someone who just commented?
12:33:40 From Patti Hutton : Aging in place looks different for everyone. Aging in a structured community, e.g. Life Plan Communities, can also be a way to Age in Place.
12:33:50 From Carol Marak, SOLO AND SMART, Dallas to D. Schafer and all panelists : Switch your chat to private question with that person
12:33:58 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Jennifer Brown 12:33 PM
Aging Life Care Managers are solo aging consultants
12:34:14 From Bonnie Silverman : There are Geriatric Care Managers
12:34:25 From AnnMarie Riehl : Aging Life Care Managers would be excellent in this role - find one in your area www.aginglifecare.org. They LOVE planners!
12:34:28 From martin Marty : What are life plan communities?
12:34:35 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Jennifer Brown 12:34 PM
Care Managers are advocates, advisors and consultants
12:34:35 From Jennifer FitzGerald to Hosts and panelists : I inadvertently raised my hand. Please ignore that. :)
12:34:38 From D. Schafer to Hosts and panelists : Carol...it does not offer this option.
12:34:39 From Clareen Heikal : I am with Cheverly Village in Maryland and Aging Alone is one of the hardest living situations to deal with. The Village becomes their support and rescue system.
12:34:50 From Valoria Walker to Hosts and panelists : Valoria Walker. www.Doulabydestiny.com End of life Doula supporting Aging soloist
12:34:59 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : From Valoria Walker to All Panelists 12:34 PM
Valoria Walker. www.Doulabydestiny.com End of life Doula supporting Aging soloist
12:35:06 From Martha Cooper to Hosts and panelists : A friend called that role an aging doula
12:35:17 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : From Martha Cooper to All Panelists 12:35 PM
A friend called that role an aging doula
12:35:17 From Joe Sperling : THANK YOU JOY!
12:35:57 From D. Schafer to Hosts and panelists : Bonnie...how can I connect with you directly?
12:36:22 From sara sheets to Hosts and panelists : Again what you are talking about is what is being done by the Village movement
12:36:24 From Jane Eleey : Geriatric Care Managers do consulting too and can be very helpful in planning
12:36:53 From Tiffani Brooks : how do you become an aging life care consultant?
12:37:16 From Miriam Zucker to Hosts and panelists : Any role AARP taking in this issue of solo aging?
12:37:18 From AnnMarie Riehl : @tiffanie - go on their website and find a local office to learn more
12:38:02 From Tiffani Brooks : will do @annmarie
12:38:16 From Stephanie Martirani : I am a patient/healthcare advocate, but I named my business Age Smart Advocates as I say my job is to support aging well, whatever that means for each individual.
12:38:22 From darci Beacom : Village to Village Network is a great resource to help locate a Village in your area. Or if your area is looking to start a Village, V2V is a terrific resource. The focus of Villages is to help people age in their own homes/communities through volunteer services. https://www.vtvnetwork.org/content.aspx?page_id=0&club_id=691012
12:38:38 From SHARON HOST : There is a national movement called Dementia Friendly America to help with this.
12:38:41 From Jeanne Hartnett : partners in care provides this service. grant funded,/boutique members use bartering/points to share skills. Background checks and matching interests. Courses on computers, smart phones etc..
12:39:17 From Jeanne Hartnett : PNC in Maryland l am a cognitive coach jeannehartnett@gmail.com
12:39:25 From Renee Jefferson : Steve, what community? I'm in MD.
12:39:25 From Carol Marak, SOLO AND SMART, Dallas to Jeanne Hartnett and all panelists : What’s the name of your business?
12:39:56 From noel white : Baltimore County now has a Dementia Friendly
12:40:40 From Renee Jefferson : I just googled saw that after I Googled, thanks, Noel.
12:40:57 From noel white : Here is the info on the Baltimore County, MD Dementia Friendly program.
12:41:35 From noel white : You are welcome Renee!
12:41:47 From Elva Roy : I have hosted a Death Café and also Death Over Dinner in order to provide information and education about death and end-of-life information. I serve on the Board of Directors of Funeral Consumers Alliance of North Texas (non-profit).
12:42:02 From Valoria Walker to Hosts and panelists : As an end of life doula I offered free consultation for those who are aging solo to help plan and prepare while they still can.
12:42:06 From Madeline Carroll to Hosts and panelists : Can you please speak about considerations regarding continuing care retirement communities.
12:43:21 From Susan Evans to Hosts and panelists : Thank you Steve.
12:43:38 From bob hoffman to Hosts and panelists : who can suggest the most creative and interesting “life care communities” in the DC area
12:43:56 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : discussion on the legal and financial implications of solo aging https://www.retirementlivingsourcebook.com/videos/the-legal-implications-of-solo-aging
12:44:17 From Cedar Dvorin : Yes to having an attorney's office be a trustee- or at least the last one if those we appoint are not longer available.
12:44:19 From Miriam Jacobson : Miriam Jacobson, retired estate planning attorney in Philadelphia PA - end of life planning leaves a lot to be desired because US law doesn't allow a lot for those of us who don't want to go through a long slow undignified death. There is an org "Death with Dignity", but it doesn't quite get us there. The NYT or Atlantic had a very recent article about a Swiss org, Dignitas that does provide death services. Not for everyone, though.
12:44:40 From Terri Hansen : My concern with a company is that you want to make sure your true wishes are addressed. Not just the medical decisions. Having multiple individuals who know you and care for you is preferable.
12:45:04 From noel white : Joy, you mentioned the spiritual side of life. I have found that at our church, there is a nice organically formed community for folks. I mention this as it may be a source to make friends.
12:45:17 From Judy Fisher : People you are addressing have money. I'm aging solo on SS and a small pension. any suggestions
12:45:28 From Bonnie Silverman : I agree with having multiple individuals, in order of priority
12:46:20 From Marie Simpson : As a retired nurse who is now a Senior Real Estate Specialist in Anne Arundel County, the resources are often available, it is where to find them. Give me a call if you need housing info or assistance in selling your forever home that can often be a burden. Marie Simpson, 410-703-3294, Annapolis Eastport, Long and Foster.
12:46:38 From AnnMarie Riehl : Yes, the local Area Agency on Aging has resources/volunteers.
12:46:58 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Financial and legal implications https://www.retirementlivingsourcebook.com/videos/the-legal-implications-of-solo-aging
12:47:19 From Suzanne Legault : Steve, I'd like to cut-and-paste the chat to save it. Is it possible to do this on Zoom? Perhaps enable it in the setiings? Thanks to all for this fantastic program.
12:47:32 From pat charoni to Hosts and panelists : I am unable to copy anything for this chat - will it be available afterwards?
12:47:50 From pat charoni to Hosts and panelists : from all these chats - can't copy
12:47:56 From Stephanie Martirani : Suzanne, I'm glad you asked, because I don't see the "..." that usually allows saving a chat.
12:48:07 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Welcome to the Eldercare Locator, a public service of the U.S. Administration on Aging connecting you to services for older adults and their families. You can also reach us at 1-800-677-1116. https://eldercare.acl.gov/Public/Index.aspx
12:48:40 From Terri Hansen : Eldercare Locator will generally refer you to your local Area Agency on Aging which is the local resource for information and resources for older adults, persons with disabilities and their caregivers.
12:49:04 From SHARON HOST : Joy I have your book and LOVE how many resources you share. I have bookmarked them all!
12:50:10 From Gail Crockett to Hosts and panelists : Seniorplanet.org has free tech help through OATS and lots of free webinars. Yesterday it was about library resources. The Denver library has librarians for the senior population.
12:51:44 From Bonnie Silverman : Does anyone know of or live in high rise apartment/condominium that has formed a "care giving group"? Would love to hear about this.
12:51:53 From steve jefferys to Hosts and panelists : Solo aging is easier with a holistic fee-only financial planner. Some tasks that I have worked on this past year with clients: review tax returns for accuracy, help fill out RMD QCD forms, help with I Bond application and purchase, rebalanced portfolio to maintain risk tolerance, recommend freezing credit reports. Arch Financial Advisors www.archfinancialadvisors.com 301-500-2079. Steve Jefferys
12:52:27 From Jenna Jones to Hosts and panelists : Hey Steve - I'd like to follow up with you. WAMU's Community Council would like to meet with you to talk about stories that the station should cover about aging issues for the local listeners. :-) I am a member of the Community Council and there is interest in this
12:53:17 From Patti Hutton to Hosts and panelists : Joy, It has been a long time, it's great to see you again!
12:53:26 From Leigh Penfield : You can also save a copy of the transcript for the session, right?
12:54:04 From bob hoffman to Hosts and panelists : Does anyone know of creative and interesting life care communities in DC area
12:54:08 From Bonnie Silverman : Can I speak??
12:54:12 From AnnMarie Riehl : If anyone is in the Baltimore County area and wants to form a group please reach out to me and I will initiate a gathering. ariehl1@umbc.edu
12:55:34 From Carole Klawansky : I'm in Howard County. Anyone else here is my area?
12:55:50 From Patti Hutton to Hosts and panelists : Great presentation and I love the topic. I am the Director of Marketing for a Life Plan community in Columbia, MD. , I'm interested in hosting a program about Solo Aging at my community. I would love to catch up with Joy and Carol following this presentation. you can reach me at huttonp@vantagepointresidences.org or 410-992-1075. Fabulous topic and excellent information.
12:56:15 From SHARON HOST : Anyone on from the South? Would love to join a group in Birmingham, AL
12:56:33 From Margaret Newman : Our Village is comprised of 7 large rental and condo buildings - a real NORC community. We function as a "care giving group"
12:57:25 From Renee Jefferson : I'm in Howard County too
12:57:27 From Margaret Newman : Our Village is Friendship Heights Neighbors Network on the border of DC but located in DC
12:57:34 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Joy Loverde, author of
12:58:12 From Madeline Carroll to Hosts and panelists : What is name of community in Philadelphia just mentioned by attendee?
12:58:41 From Carole Klawansky : Renee, I'd like to chat more.
12:59:07 From Renee Jefferson : Please reach out is anyone is interested in continuing this conversation, jeffersonr@vantagepointresidences.org
12:59:29 From Lisa Cook : In my spare time, I have a Facebook community called Plan B Connections and did a TED talk called Living Alone Living Connected - my target group is pre-retirees in their 50s in case anyone is interested in connecting over this. I think it's important to work on this as early as possible. If there is a 55+ community with pre-retirees still working, please let me know.
13:00:01 From D. Schafer : Lisa...what is the FB address for your group?
13:00:18 From Carole Klawansky : Renee, I'm at Watermark Place.
13:01:23 From Renee Jefferson : I'm a social worker at vantage point
13:01:25 From Risa Mandell to Hosts and panelists : is this scheduled for 60 or 90minutes please?
13:01:30 From vivian Sheliga : Great group; very informative
13:01:48 From Lisa Cook : D. Schafer - please Google PlanBConnections.com, it links to my Facebook group. It's all volunteer work. Thanks.
13:02:02 From D. Schafer : Thanks Lisa...will do.
13:02:58 From sara sheets to Hosts and panelists : Villages NW would be a good resource to contact if you want to know about making connections to develop community. It is a part of the Villages Movement that started in Boston but is a nationwide program. Sara Sheets host of Living Solo
13:02:59 From Susan Evans to Hosts and panelists : I live in a nice mixed income apartment building. I met a woman two doors down who has no family here, no car. I befriended her and help take her to doctors appointments, managing many things. Anyone can do this. Speak out, say hello to elders who live near you. We all can form ad-hoc elder care groups.
13:03:07 From Risa Mandell to Hosts and panelists : Carol was going to say something
13:03:23 From Kitty Zuckerman : Thanks so much...this was great!
13:03:32 From Renee Jefferson : very ineresting
13:03:50 From D. Schafer : Thank you. Hope you do this again.
13:03:54 From Risa Mandell to Hosts and panelists : many thanks - with appreciation????????????
13:04:10 From Gail Crockett to Hosts and panelists : This was awesome. I’m on my IPad and sadly can’t seem to download the chat.
13:04:11 From Carole Klawansky : Can you upload the chat?
13:04:13 From Jeanne Smith : What about a community bulletin board on your site, Steve
13:04:25 From Risa Mandell : many thanks, Everyone!????????????
13:04:43 From DONNA FREDERICKS to Hosts and panelists : Thank you Steve. This is Donna Fredericks. I spoke with you last week. Great talk
13:04:49 From Susan Evans to Hosts and panelists : Thanks for this webinar. I listened while painting for my gallery.
13:04:55 From Jeanne Smith : lol
13:05:07 From pat charoni to Hosts and panelists : This was awesome thanks!????
13:05:09 From Risa Mandell to Hosts and panelists : Thank you, Steve! for explaining DMV!
13:05:24 From Leigh Penfield : listserver for future sessions?
13:05:44 From Kenneth Reichardt : Should be DDMV - DC, Delaware, Maryland, Virginia
13:06:03 From Miriam Zucker : Thanks, you have expanded the concept of “solo aging.” A person “is” or “may become.”
13:06:10 From Karen Dotson : Should be DMV&WV - lol
13:06:26 From Jeanne Hartnett : thanks Steve, great discussion critical thinking is 1 of 5 areas of cognition. Fit Minds jeannehartnett@gmail.com
13:06:28 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Sourcebook : Solo and Smart https://carolmarak.com/solo-and-smart-book.html
13:06:31 From Risa Mandell : Congratulations, Carol!
13:06:35 From Margaret Newman : Look at The Blue Zones book to see more about aging secrets in other cultures.
13:06:52 From Ann Sklar : This session was very helpful - thanks to all!
13:06:53 From Meryl Schaffer : How uplifting this is for everybody!!!
13:07:00 From Bonnie Silverman : Thank you!!
13:07:01 From Jeanne Smith : Thanks everyone
13:07:06 From Patti Hutton : Great discussion! very thought provoking!
13:07:08 From Risa Mandell : Great vitality and engagment!
13:07:09 From Paula Osborne : Thanks!
13:07:20 From Carole Klawansky : Thanks. Lots of resources!
13:07:24 From Marie Simpson : Thanks to everyone, very great ideas.
13:08:15 From Margaret Newman : Great Program about good resource book and look forward to the next one.
13:08:46 From sara sheets to Hosts and panelists : To build relationships you really need to have ongoing contact over time.
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