Solo Aging: Open Discussion

An open roundtable style discussion on topics of interest to solos!  

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Chat Transcript

15:07:50     From  Rena Tobey : Hi everyone! Glad to be together! Unfortunately I have to leave early…

15:12:04     From  Molly Price : Hi @Kitty Russell I work in senior living! My suggestion is when you start to feel overwhelmed with things that previously seemed simple, it may be time to think about downsizing. Also, if you are living alone, a community will keep you active and engaged :)

15:13:20     From  Veda Vazquez : Good day everyone, from Coatesville, Pa-this is Veda

15:13:29     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Let’s Talk About Your DREAM HOME and COMMUNITY FOR AGING https://www.retirementlivingsourcebook.com/events/let%E2%80%99s-talk-about-your-dream-home-and-community-for-aging

15:13:50     From  Jill Kamenetz : I get lots of questions like Linda.  I am a social worker and I don't necessarily know if eithically it would be appropriate to be an executor/poa, etc.

15:14:28     From  Nancy Ruffner   to   Steve Gurney - ProAging Community(Direct Message) : Have to leave early, darn it! I am chairing our "Pros Working With Solos" group (the authors, the speakers, you know them ) . Looking forward to the recording!

15:14:39     From  Teresa Tam (she/her) : Professional Patient Health Advocates may also be willing to act as HC POA. Definitely not all.

15:18:11     From  Patricia C : How do you find an attorney who would do these things?

15:18:17     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Aging Life Care™, also known as geriatric care management, is a holistic, client-centered approach to caring for older adults or others facing ongoing health challenges. Working with families, the expertise of Aging Life Care Professionals provides the answers at a time of uncertainty. https://www.aginglifecare.org/

15:19:23     From  Rena Tobey : My end-of-life doula is serving as my healthcare proxy

15:19:41     From  Rena Tobey : If anyone is in New York, I’m happy to refer my attorney. Contact me at renatobey@gmail.com

15:20:27     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : End-of-life doulas provide companionship, comfort, and guidance to those facing a terminal illness or death. Our non-medical holistic support encompasses emotional, spiritual, and practical care. https://inelda.org/

15:21:21     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys https://www.naela.org/

15:25:36     From  Sharon Sirkis : What is dailey money manager? link?

15:26:21     From  Joan Zaffarano : How feasible is it to rely on hospice care at home if you are living alone?

15:27:17     From  Linda Diner : American Assoc. of Daily Money Mangers

15:28:34     From  Sharon Sirkis : Thanks!

15:29:32     From  Teresa Tam (she/her) : Villages are a great way to be able to age in place longer, or for good: https://www.vtvnetwork.org/

15:29:50     From  Becky : In respose re Hospice it depends on the Hospice,  Not all Hospices are equal.  It is a growing business.  I'd suggest  you contact several Hospices & ask your questions to all of them.

15:31:19     From  Elva Roy, Arlington TX : elvaroy@gmail.com or www.ambassadorsforagingwell.org

15:32:07     From  Nancy Ruffner : Be aware that hospice care in delivery (at home) is not 24/7. Most folks must augment with other care, through home are agencies and others. So there is that risk. Study the services: hospice, palliative care, home care v. home health. then your questions will come up and you can gain clarity as you decide and plan.

15:32:11     From  Jacqueline Rams : yes

15:34:24     From  Joe Sperling-Protectionist-Feel Good : Check out VA -Aid & Attendance benefits sfor Veterans

15:34:32     From  Jacqueline Rams : yes to rich maryuat.  where do you ago?

15:35:15     From  Sharon Sirkis : Asking for help is difficult when you are so used to doing things yourself. What I've learned is that people feel good and of service when they help you/us. Sometimes it's our ability to receive, i.e. we may not feel worthy or it's difficulet to receive. Receiving makes us more vulnerable as opposed to in control when we are the givers. Hope this helps.

15:36:24     From  Linda Diner : does anyone have information Friends Life Care - Quaker organiztion

15:37:01     From  Kitty Russell : Also, if people don't know what you are going through (what your challenges are) they won't know you need the services that may be available to you.

15:37:14     From  Crystal Thomas : Reacted to "Asking for help is d..." with ????

15:37:18     From  Joe Sperling-Protectionist-Feel Good : For aging in place itis important to have Long-Term Care coverage.

15:37:32     From  Nancy Hutter : How do you find a "village"

15:37:57     From  Teresa Tam (she/her) : Replying to "How do you find a "v..."

https://www.vtvnetwork.org/

15:38:49     From  Cynde :: Tampa, Fla. : Re Quaker Life Care… I never heard of it but I have been looking at Kendal and Friends Homes (Quaker CCRCs)

15:38:56     From  Veda Vazquez : Replying to "How do you find a "v..."

veda.vazquez@va.gov

15:38:58     From  Joe Sperling-Protectionist-Feel Good : The shortage of paid caregivers is going to get worse, not better.

15:39:50     From  Veda Vazquez : I am looking for resources for my boyfriend, an vietman veteran, his health is starting to decline.  lives in a two story condo with horrible steps. he lives in south jersey if anyone has any resources. please help!!  thank  you  ☺️

15:40:43     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Our mission is to make on-demand services accessible and reliable so we can thrive independently and confidently at home and in the community as we age. https://gogograndparent.com/

15:41:55     From  Tracee Garner : I think it’s important to realize that people often WANT and Desire to help others, they just don’t know to help but they are often completely willing to provide support. Start with a short, non identifying note on Nextdoor, a neighborhood website or other small community where there aren’t tons of people and see what opens up. And practice, practice that you will get in the habit and it will soon become Easier for you to do.

15:43:53     From  Paul Moss : Steve -goGo grand...? Site

15:44:18     From  Patricia C : I volunteer with an agency that provides free transportation to anyone 62 or older. Many communities have resources that are available but you have to be a detective sometimes to find them.

15:44:30     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Tucson Home Sharing, Inc. provides education, outreach and advocacy

toward creating and sustaining home sharing partnerships while supporting

all other beneficial planning outcomes for healthy aging. https://www.tucsonhomesharing.org/

15:44:45     From  Deb Knox : Tucson Home Sharing, www..tucsonhomesharing@gmail.com

15:46:02     From  Judy Kinsey   to   Steve Gurney - ProAging Community(Direct Message) : Where is the Uber/ Lift and whatever other system you mentioned? I can't find where you put it. In chat?

15:46:28     From  Deb Knox : tucsonhomesharing.org

15:47:05     From  Cynde :: Tampa, Fla. : Replying to "Steve -goGo grand......"

https://gogograndparent.com

15:47:39     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Our mission is to make on-demand services accessible and reliable so we can thrive independently and confidently at home and in the community as we age. https://gogograndparent.com/

15:48:53     From  Judy Kinsey   to   Steve Gurney - ProAging Community(Direct Message) : Thank you

15:49:31     From  Sharon Sirkis : love it!

15:50:07     From  martin K : Maybe it would be beneficial if people added to to name where they are from and if they either will provide or need help to this community can help

15:50:45     From  Ruth Y : Replying to "How do you find a "v..."

Hi! This is Ruth Grover from Alexandria, VA!

15:50:58     From  Elisabeth Green : I am using my MS in Biomedical Engineering to expand healthspan for wise women including clinical trials that the NIH has recently opened to partnership with biohackers. Who else is ready to collaborate to empower women seeking regenerative medicine? I would like to help write proposals to develop injectable hydrogels that detect biomarkers & release stem cells or other biologics. Who should I connect with? Any biohackers here?

15:51:03     From  Kitty Russell : Kitty Russell, Arlington, VA

15:51:16     From  Teresa Tam (she/her) : Teresa Tam, Seattle, WA

15:51:17     From  Irene Rutter : I’m Irene from Montgomery County, MD.

15:51:24     From  Maria Salerno : Maria from Lamorinda Village  in the East Bay area, California

15:51:45     From  martin K : NoVa

15:51:50     From  Anna Harvey   to   Steve Gurney - ProAging Community(Direct Message) : everyone types their location into chat - BUT don't press Enter until you Steve  give the word.... Creates a "waterfall" of responses. ????

15:51:50     From  Pamela Houghtaling, Falls Church, VA : Pamela Houghtaling, Falls Church, VA

15:52:01     From  Cherie Lockett : Cherie Lockett - Chicago/Evanston, IL

15:52:22     From  susan v : I'm in the SF bay area, CA (north bay)

15:52:24     From  Sharon Sirkis : Sharon Sirkis Columbia, MD

15:52:40     From  Kristy Kennedy : Ginger Noce, DC

15:52:56     From  Maria Salerno : Was wondering if any of the participant in this session are in a Solo Living Program. We are trying to form a group to exchange ideas and experiences. Thank you!

15:52:58     From  Cynde :: Tampa, Fla. : Replying to "I am using my MS in ..."

Kinda sorta. Not sure what you are looking for.

15:53:28     From  Sharon Sirkis : Whaaaaat?!!!!

15:53:29     From  Kyle Frank (The View Alexandria by Goodwin Living) : I am Kyle from The View Alexandria by Goodwin Living.  We are a month-to-month rental community for seniors in the Northern Virginia and DC area.  Goodwin currently provides care and resources for about 2500 older adults, including independent/assisted living, long term care, skilled nursing, memory care, rehab, home health, and hospice.

15:54:07     From  Kitty Russell, Arlington, VA : Replying to "I am Kyle from The V..."

You rock!

15:54:13     From  Anna Harvey : what's a Solo Living Program, please? (from chat)

15:54:22     From  Kyle Frank (The View Alexandria by Goodwin Living) : Reacted to "You rock!" with ❤️

15:54:50     From  Teresa Tam (she/her) : Replying to "Was wondering if any..."

Yes, I lead Solo Aging groups in Seattle, WA. Feel free to contact me at teresat@phinneycenter.org

15:55:00     From  Elisabeth Green : Green@green247.org

15:55:47     From  Maria Salerno : Thank you Teresa!

15:56:04     From  Veda Vazquez : Paul you are pretty awesome!!

15:56:13     From  Stephen Hobbs (AB, Canada) : WELLcome, conversations about Living Legacy Life as a SoloAger - stephen@wellthmovement.com

15:56:14     From  martin K : I’ve always lived alone and thus always cooked for myself

15:56:36     From  Kitty Russell, Arlington, VA : Reacted to "I’ve always lived al..." with ????

15:56:51     From  Elisabeth Green : Reacted to I’ve always lived al... with "????"

15:58:05     From  Tracee Garner : Just FYI Aging Solo is a program that is often offered at local aging services, e.g AOA or Centers for Independent Living. We just finished teaching it, it’s just six lessons and it’s phenomenal course, you can see more about it here: https://www.iona.org/services/take-charge-age-well-academy/agingsolo/

15:58:15     From  Gloria Levin, DC area : To get started, contact your Area Agency on Aging.  All jurisdictions have one.

15:58:37     From  Veda Vazquez : there are older adult peer support.

15:59:03     From  Maria Salerno : m.salerno@iese.net (Lamorinda Village) trying to form a Living Solo Program for our members.

16:00:16     From  Kitty Russell, Arlington, VA : Blue zone? What is it?

16:01:00     From  Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : BLUE ZONES® https://www.bluezones.com/

16:01:15     From  Cyndie Taylor/Indianapolis : There is a book called blue zone & netflix has a series on it.

16:01:16     From  Barbara Weidhorn : Thank you for this interesting networking meeting for solo agers, I relate to how hard it is to ask for help and worry about reaching out to strangers.  Hope you do this again.  Sorry that I have to leave early because I have another meeting scheduled.  Take care all.

16:02:22     From  martin K : AARP magazine had a recent article on centenarians

16:02:27     From  Sharon Sirkis : Go for it!

16:02:32     From  Kitty Russell, Arlington, VA : I think an hour is the right amount of time for this. And thank you for this forum for sharing questions and ideas!

16:02:46     From  Sharon Sirkis : Thank you!!!

16:03:17     From  Paul Moss : Thank you!