Join us for an interactive discussion talking about topics that we (or our loved ones) don’t want to talk about! Ladan Madresehee Ladan is FAMOUS for her Taboo Talks! These casual events include an open and safe discussion regarding the issues surrounding different taboo topics
One attendee asked us to do a poll asking the ages of people in this discussion, check out the results! Over 100 people registered and over 40 took the poll.
Age of Attendees | |
Youngest | 35 |
Oldest | 96 |
Average | 69 |
Percentage | |
Over 70 | 54% |
Over 60 | 73% |
Under 60 | 27% |
Questions Asked
Chat Transcript
12:08:39 From Joe Sperling : It's a free country and a free discussion. If anyone is concerned about content, it's easy to tune out.
12:09:10 From Sue Christopher : We won't "cancel" you! ????
12:10:29 From Joe Sperling : Dogs (and maybe cats) leave pawprints on our hearts.
12:12:43 From Joe Sperling : Many families don't talk with their children about finances, investing, and long-term care.
12:14:48 From Patricia Dubroof : Thanks for mentioning Death Cafe. My next Death Cafe is December 20 at 7pm on ZOOM> Just let me know if you'd like to join. pdubroof@assistinghands.com
12:15:06 From Patricia Dubroof : We laugh and talk about everything related to Death and dying!
12:15:36 From lee de cola : i'm interested in sharing positive views of death.
12:16:51 From Joe Sperling : It can be a generational thing. Depression era folks and sometimes their children, are ssuper frugal.
12:17:59 From Gary Wederspahn : An excellent resource for countering the taboo about death talk is https://www.thegooddeathsocietyblog.net/
12:18:18 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Death Cafe https://deathcafe.com/
12:18:24 From Anna Harvey : In Laden's experience, why do boomers generally not want to think about or plan their aging journey?
12:18:48 From Jessica Hardiman : Great funeral song!
12:19:01 From Joe Sperling : A wonderful funeral song is Eva Cassidy-Over the Rainbow.
12:20:43 From Patricia Dubroof : Death Doula's help ask the hard questions and make the plan possible.
12:21:00 From Patricia C : I have a 100 year old friend who makes $80000 a year from her pension and SS and owns a million dollar home. She won’t hire an aide to help around the house. Medicare covers 2 hours of aide service 3 days a week. The aide charges $20 an hour. Her kids have even offered to pay. Some people are too set in their ways.
12:21:36 From Patricia Dubroof : Lee join me at Death Cafe. You'd like this group!!
12:22:35 From lee de cola to Hosts and panelists : LDECOLA@COMCAST.NET
12:23:21 From lee de cola : I HATE navigating 'health' care!
12:23:24 From Joe Sperling : She should be honets witht he family.
12:24:28 From Joe Sperling : Many Boomers are simply in denial.
12:25:27 From Anna Harvey : Yes, I get they/we are in denial... but why??
12:25:47 From lee de cola to Hosts and panelists : like to see a poll on the ages of this webinar's participants.
12:27:29 From lee de cola : SEX: be your own lover first.
12:28:01 From Sue Christopher : I update my password list for all of my social media, banking, healthcare, etc. sites and give it to my sister at least once a year.
12:28:24 From mary busse : Like Ladan, I am proud to tell my age...84! What to say to people whose reply is...You don't look it. Then suggest that I look 60! Duh! What's wrong with looking my age. I haven't come up with a good come back.
12:28:26 From Gary Wederspahn : A "Taboo" is a culturally defined concept. We can learn about from other cultures that don't share our taboos.
12:28:40 From Anna Harvey : oh, very interesting, Steve - thanks for that perspective!
12:28:40 From lee de cola : the big sleep.
12:28:43 From Joe Sperling : Right Steve. Some of us believe we will be the very lucky ones.
12:29:25 From Patricia Dubroof : no poll yet!
12:29:26 From Molly Price : I don't see a poll
12:29:28 From Anna Harvey : I don't see it either
12:29:40 From Michelle Mosford to Hosts and panelists : It would be ideal to have much more education and open discussion on declining health/navigating healthcare/death/dying/funerals/celebrations of life...and the financial piece that goes along with death and dying. When I go to a hospice admission, I openly ask about funeral arrangements, their preference and concerns. Many times I get wildly varied reactions, positive and negative. Thanks for talking about this! Clarifying misconceptions and stereotypes is crucial. My parents laid out all their plans, we discussed the plans and I went to the funeral home with my father then after he passed, we helped at the funeral home clean and dress him.
12:30:55 From lee de cola : share (carefully) your sex toys.
12:31:05 From Joe Sperling : It's not impossible. Just harder.
12:31:26 From Molly Price : I work in Senior Living and it's WILD
12:34:54 From Molly Price : Same! My mom is 76 absolutely refuses to even consider it
12:35:21 From Joe Sperling : Allowing some one to fail has to be done with thought. Tread carefully if failure could be threatening to life or limb.
12:35:32 From Patricia C : I only got my age
12:35:54 From Victoria Breeden to Hosts and panelists : Be careful, though, the adult communities are having financial difficulties and some don’t fulfill their promises.
12:36:02 From lee de cola to Hosts and panelists : number of respondents?
12:36:34 From Anna Harvey : thanks, Steve - that would be very interesting!
12:37:47 From lee de cola : the brain is the supreme erogenous zone.
12:39:20 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Music, "Fields of Gold" song by Eva Cassidy, Celebration of Life, HomeGoing Funeral Song... very inspirational song...
12:39:30 From Patricia C : There are therapists and exercise professionals who focus on pelvic floor dysfunction. They have suggestions for strengthening and relaxing the pelvic floor.
12:40:06 From lee de cola : interested in male pelvic physical therapists.
12:41:01 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Ladan Madresehee ladan@leave2me.com
12:41:07 From Nancy Linnerooth to Hosts and panelists : I have to leave early, but this has been fascinating. Thank you, Steve and Ladan.
12:41:52 From Jessica Hardiman : BLadder control is another topic
12:42:43 From lee de cola : i don't have grandchildren, but i think elders need to talk to them about climate change.
12:43:42 From Kathleen STEED to Hosts and panelists : Because I cannot be examined by a gynecologist because of atrophy, the gynecologist suggested I check for vagina dilators. She said any would do, and that they are on Amazon. Yes, to my surprise, they are are large variety. Another person said to be sure to check on the Memorial Sloane Kettering Cancer Center website on how to use the dilators.
12:43:56 From Victoria Breeden to Hosts and panelists : Is your fb community Taboo Talks?
12:45:01 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Taboo Talks & Thoughts https://www.facebook.com/groups/taboott/
12:45:15 From Kathleen STEED to Hosts and panelists : I have been to lots of sessions on death and dying. Somehow, I thought your “Taboo Talks” would be more along the lines of what to do in situations involving the physical results of aging. For instance, problems with chewing and eating, the may result in dribbling food or other socially unpleasant problems. Then, there are the really awkward, embarrassing instances of not being able to “hold it” with urination or even evacuation. Especially when out or as a guest in someone’s home. These are really “taboo,” rarely mentioned even with an older best friend.
12:45:36 From Jessica Hardiman : im 47 and have this issue
12:45:46 From Jessica Hardiman : I joke about it with my friends all the time
12:45:46 From Joe Sperling : It depends.
12:47:18 From Joe Sperling : And if you live long enough, most of your friends have died.
12:48:11 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Because I cannot be examined by a gynecologist because of atrophy, the gynecologist suggested I check for vagina dilators. She said any would do, and that they are on Amazon. Yes, to my surprise, they are are large variety. Another person said to be sure to check on the Memorial Sloane Kettering Cancer Center website on how to use the dilators.
12:49:58 From Patricia C : Advanced directives can include funeral arrangements.
12:50:41 From lee de cola : i want people to talk about me as they would if i were not there...hey, i'm not!
12:51:26 From Gary Wederspahn : A great book of adult cartoons on taboo talk with elders is Can't We Talk about Something More Pleasant? :https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Can't_We_Talk_About_Something_More_Pleasant?
12:51:36 From lee de cola : aging is hard...
12:51:37 From Joe Sperling : Having a joy-filled celebration rather than a dirge as a funeral is VERY attractive alternative.
12:53:14 From Patricia Dubroof : Like much of life, we can plan what we want today for end of life, but reality may change that path. Which is why it's so important to be talking about this with loved ones, so as thing morf, hopefully they can maintain many of your wishes.
12:53:52 From Patricia Dubroof : Eric Cathcart is making amazing funeral, memorial events happen for folks!
12:55:18 From Patricia C : It would be helpful if support groups around health issues could include practice sessions for telling others about their symptoms.
12:55:48 From lee de cola : and we never got to talk about healthcare?
12:56:24 From Joe Sperling : Now you're trying to buck human nature.
12:57:27 From Patricia Dubroof : Thanks, nice chatting and great responses!!
12:57:42 From Joe Sperling : This has been AWESOME!
12:57:49 From lee de cola : group therapy.
12:57:49 From Rozzlyn Pierce : This has been my favorite webinar. Please have more
12:57:53 From Patricia Dubroof : Taboo Talks Weekly!!!
12:58:37 From Jessica Hardiman : Awesome!!
12:58:43 From Kathleen STEED to Hosts and panelists : Or break down the “taboos” by subjects, and concentrate on a specific area.
12:58:45 From Joe Sperling : Howley Cwap!
12:58:49 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : Ladan Madresehee ladan@leave2me.com
12:59:44 From Virginia Keim to Hosts and panelists : I guess you get a liberated just by voicing concerns, which would be good
13:00:22 From Gail Braverman to Hosts and panelists : This was a wonderful session. Really opens up subjects difficult to talk about. Thank you,
13:00:28 From Steve Gurney - ProAging Community : We have a family friend she wanted to be at her Celebration of Life, so at age 90 Family have given her a Celebration with her joyful presence and participation. She is 100 now..
13:01:02 From Kathleen STEED to Hosts and panelists : Way back in the 1960s, there was a woman named Betty Dodson. She conducted sessions where she taught women to masterbate (sp?). Such was the 1960s.
13:01:10 From lee de cola : i love embarrassing people...
13:01:16 From Molly Price : Thank you both! Such good info
13:01:21 From Joe Sperling : You might need a larger auditorium
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